I’ve mentioned a few times already that I’m engaged. In fact, I’m very newly engaged, just two weeks ago my boyfriend of 8 years proposed and became my fiancée. I am so happy about this I can’t even describe it, but it certainly changes the course of our lives over the next few years. In my ideal life, I would have a short engagement followed by a wonderful wedding with my family and friends. I would treat them all to a great meal and a wonderful day.
But in my alternate life, I can afford to have a great party to celebrate being married, without wiping out my other goal of getting out of debt. My engagement is going to be a lot longer, (probably a year and a half) to give us time to save. We are going to focus on maximizing the fun part of the whole affair, and minimizing the saving money on things you’ll never remember anyway (like matching bridesmaids dresses and the something borrowed something blue something however that rhyme goes). As much as I would like to do those things, they wouldn’t be conducive to the other goals I’m trying to reach in my life, like getting out of debt. So instead of a big elaborate affair, a backyard BBQ, bonfire, and dance makes a lot more sense, and will be just as fun.
Staying on Budget While Engaged
Is going to be freaking hard. As much as I just waxed poetic about a small, fun party, I know I’m going to be tempted to be ridiculous and I’m going to get sucked into wanting things that I have no business wanting. In fact, that has already happened. My fiancée and I have always talked about going to Europe for our honey moon. He’s never been there but being a history major I just know he would absolutely love it. But guess what? Europe is expensive! I always knew that it was costly, but we’re talking the same cost as the wedding itself for anything that doesn’t involve hostels (not that I’m against hostels,there are some beautiful hostels out there, but this is our honeymoon we’re talking about). I held on to the idea of a honeymoon in europe for a few days, even though the more we researched, the more it seemed out of the question. I started to have thoughts about entitlement.
I deserve this!
Why can’t I just have what I want?
Finally I gave up the game and remembered why we were doing this in the first place, because we love each other, and we want to share that. Not for an epic honeymoon. Not to impress people with the kind of extravagant wedding we can’t afford. Those moments of weakness are probably going to happen about a million times over the next year and a half, and staying on budget, both in our month to month budget and the wedding budget itself, is going to be a challenge.
Have you gotten married on a strict budget? What were the biggest challenges? Where did you save and where did you splurge?