Everyday I’m Juggling

Wow things have been really crazy lately. It seems like life has suddenly kicked into overdrive. I’ve got a million things on the go, and as a result, I’ve been neglecting the things that are important to me. It’s not that I’m not interested in them anymore, it’s that there is simply no TIME to get as much done as I’d like. In the last few weeks, a bunch of things have happened that are sucking up my time and leaving me mentally and physically exhausted at the end of the day.

  • My job has kicked into overdrive which has (unfortunately) cut into my blog writing and reading time.
  • I’ve moved into a new house that needs a ton of work to make it our own, including a giant list of tiny little projects that is going to take months to get through.
  • We got our new dog Molly, and although she’s the sweetest little girl ever, she needs a lot of training on how to be a good pet (things like how to meet new dogs nicely and how to ride in the car).
  • Finally, it’s summer time, which means that every weekend we’re shuttling from one family event to another, usually with our Friday-Saturday-Sunday weekend completely booked down to the hour by Tuesday.

I’m really happy about most of these developments, I like the faster pace at work, I love our new place and dog, and I love spending time with friends and family. But by the time I get home at the end of the day, I’m pretty exhausted, which doesn’t leave much time or enthusiasm for the things I used to spend a lot of time doing, like writing, running, yoga, and (most importantly) spending time with my fiancée.

Finding My Lost Enthusiasm

I wish I had the enthusiasm for this.

I would LOVE to do that every morning, but the truth is, I can barely get myself out of bed some mornings. It’s not because I haven’t had enough sleep or because I worked a twelve hour shift the day before, it’s because I’m a naturally lazy person. When my day is packed I find it tough to go the extra mile and really push myself to do the things I want to do.

So I have two conflicting mentalities going on. The one mentality, the lazy side of me, wants to stay in bed until the last minute, go home from the party at midnight, and lay on the couch all night. The other mentality, the (I think) better version of myself, wants to get up at 6am and go for a run, work hard and fast all day, come home and do a few hours of cooking and cleaning before spending some quality time with the fiancée.

Obviously the second mentality is the better one, but the first mentality is the easier one. With all of this extra stuff on my plate, I’ve been siding with the first mentality more and more lately.

Just Do It

So since this blog has been so great for my accountability lately, I figured I might as well use it for that yet again. I hereby pledge to stop wallowing in my own laziness, to find my enthusiasm for blogging, running, and fiancée loving, and to embrace the craziness that is my life instead of becoming a victim of it. At the end of the month I’m going to check in and see if I’ll be able to turn this things around. I’m hoping that I’ll be able to make up for my missed blog posts (with quality writing), complete my very nearly completed running goal for the year, and maybe I’ll interview my fiancée on how well I’m doing at putting effort into our relationship.

I might also buy that print above to hang next to my bed so I can see it every morning before I hit the snooze button.

How do you deal with life stress? Do you shut down like me? Or do you rise to the occasion and kick some ass? I want to know!

  • Frugalportland

    the very best version. I love it.

  • http://www.outliermodel.com/ Brian

     I am also a naturally lazy person – I struggle with a lot of the same issues and conflicts as you do. I also want to be the very best person, but I also want to relax and not be stressed. I’ve relied heavily on my partner, who is much more motivated and driven than I am. My advice is to make changes slowly. Don’t give up lounging on the TV all at once (and never give it up entirely!) – make small changes so you get used to the ‘new normal’. Allowing yourself some ‘relaxation time’ is key, no matter how busy you get.

    • JordannK

      I think you’ve given good advice here. I’m going to ease into waking up earlier – something I’ve never been able to do, and see how that goes, then I’ll add something else. Don’t worry, I’ll never give up my relaxation time!

  • bogofdebt

    The very best version! I don’t know if this will help you, but I get up 15 minutes earlier than I “have” to.  It’s me time and I actually get a lot done–water plants, feed cat and make lunch.  I find that makes me a much happier person to start my day off.

    • JordannK

      My fiancee swears by that. He says it’s 100% worth it in order to not be rushed in the morning. I actually did that this morning! Go me!

  • http://twitter.com/SenseofCents Michelle

    Did anyone else read the title and sing “Everyday I’m Hustlin’”? Or was that just me?

    Anyways, I’m either VERY VERY VERY lazy, or very determined. I know how you feel!

    • http://www.fromshoppingtosaving.com/ From Shopping to Saving

      I TOTALLY KEPT HEARING THAT SONG…DUN DUN DUN DUN DA DA DA… hahaha :P

      • http://thirtysixmonths.com/ Marissa

        I did the SAME THING! i MAY STILL BE SINGING IT IN MY HEAD.

        • JordannK

          I’m glad a few people got the reference!

  • http://www.modestmoney.com/ Modest Money

    Don’t feel too bad Jordann.  I think most of us go through phases like this.  My motivation definitely comes in waves.  I’ll be on top of everything for a while and work my ass off.  Eventually I get a bit burnt out and have to step back to relax.  Finding the right balance is the key.

    It does sound like your almost completed running goal for the year may be a problem too.  Since you know you will complete that goal easily, you may have lost some of that drive for running.  Might be time to increase that goal.

    • JordannK

      I think you’re right. My issue with running is that if I’m not entered in a race, I have a terrible time with motivation. Maybe it’s time to start looking up my next race…

  • http://twitter.com/seedebtrun See Debt Run

    I wish I could jump out of bed all chipper and ready to face the day, but most days I’ve not gotten enough sleep the night before and wake up saying “already?”  I used to be more energetic, so maybe it’s the baby zapping my mojo lately.  HOPEFULLY.  Otherwise, being 30 is just kicking my butt.  Ew…I hope it’s not that…lol.  You are motivating me, Jordann!!  Tmw, I’m going to set my alarm early, get up and do a workout with Jeff before he has to go to work.  I think that would make me feel SO good about myself!  Maybe I could get a load of laundry done or the dishes before the lil miss gets up too?  
    -M

    • JordannK

      That sounds like a great idea! It must be helpful too if you’ve got someone to work out/get up early with. I know that having Molly has made it much easier to get up and go for a walk in the morning these days.

  • http://www.fromshoppingtosaving.com/ From Shopping to Saving

    Hey Jordann! I am in the same exact place as you right now. Life is hectic, I’m wondering how the hell I overextend myself everyday and why all of my weekends are jam-packed. I have tons of family and tons to do too. I think that you need to take some time for yourself just to relax and breathe. I went to get my nails done yesterday (which I don’t normally do, I do them myself) but it was nice to just sit down, reflect, and ponder my life right now. Just take it all in and take a deep breath. 

    After that, prioritize, make lists, and learn how to say no to family members if you are really out of time. I had to say no to my dad because I literally just have no time. Also my stepsister! It’s okay to be lazy sometimes but it sounds like you’re just a busy gal… at least you are having fun right? =)

    • JordannK

      I’m definitely enjoying it all! But I agree, it’s really hard to say no to family members, but sometimes I just have to. I need to get better at that.

  • http://twitter.com/blondeonabudget Cait Flanders

    Molly was the winning name, eh!? I love it! Post pics often! And just breathe and take each moment as it comes. I find that I have to do everything as soon as I think of it, otherwise I’ll forget about it. So don’t procrastinate any little thing. Just go go go. And then relax :)

    • JordannK

      I’ve gotten really good at using my phone to make lists. There are so many things I need to be doing all of the time, I’d never get it all done otherwise. thanks for the tips!

    • JordannK

      Yup we were already considering Molly and those votes just sealed the deal. Thanks for the advice, I NEED to get better at just doing all of my little chores (calling my cell company, paying my car registration, etc) instead of putting them off until the last minute. I’d probably feel less stressed that way.

  • http://centsnonsense.wordpress.com/ LittleFrugalista

    I hear ya! So much to do, so little time, sometimes so little motivation. I have to admit I shut down a little bit like you do so I’m trying to set attainable goals…baby steps! I’d really like to create a vision board but even THAT is something I put off! I know that I can be very determined when I set my mind to something (like paying off my debt) but once I’m off the wagon, I tend to stay off the wagon.

    • JordannK

      Sounds like we’re in the same boat, putting off making things better. I think you’re idea of using baby steps is a great plan, less chance of backsliding if you’re just focusing on one little improvement at a time.

  • http://www.momoneymohouses.com/ Mo’ Money Mo’ Houses

    I deal with different types of stress differently, or in stages. Sometimes I just freeze and can’t do anything but worry or sometimes I just become really productive and clean the house, make a new recipe, and write five blog posts in one night.

    • JordannK

      I wish I delt with stress by being super productive, maybe you’re avoiding thinking about something so you occupy yourself like that? That seems like a better way of handling it than just shutting down.

  • http://belowhermeans.com/ B. (Below Her Means)

    Did you mean for the subject of this blog post to sound like the LMFAO song? Because it did. ;)

    When I was drinking, I always gave up. Every. Time. Now that I’m sober, I’ve been exercising five times a week, getting to work on time and staying late, etc. It’s crazy what you’re capable of when you decide to get stubborn.

    • JordannK

      Hehe yes I did. :)

      Getting stubborn is what I really need to do. I need to buckle down and refuse to get beat by life!

  • Budget & the Beach

    I’m one of those people that needs to get moving or else I’m completely useless. Exercise gives me more energy and motivation to do more. But, sometimes if I’m stressed, I do that stuff alone to get some me time, so in a way I kind of do both. 

  • http://youngandthrifty.ca/ TM @ youngandthrifty

    Good luck man, I understand the feeling of being booked solid though.  It’s not a good thing when you start to resent family things for eating up all of your recuperation time on weekends eh?  It’s tough to look forward to summer, only to be absolutely committed to doing stuff 24/7.  This is one reason why I prize free time above almost all else on my priority list.

  • http://twitter.com/eemusings eemusings

     Love love love these graphics.

    Things are hectic in my life too at the moment and I feel I could have written this post – particularly about being somewhat lazy and struggling to fit in even the things that are important to me.

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  • http://twitter.com/SavvyFinLatina SavvyFinancialLatina

    Honestly, it depends on how stressed I am, and what is stressing me out at the moment. I always get work done, but if I am lacking motivation, exercise falls by the waist side.

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